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No more hissy-fits!

I've said it before and I'm going to say it again: STOP HAVING HISSY-FITS WHEN MISTAKES ARE MADE! Coaches sound like this: "We just worked on that in practice!" "You gotta make those easy shots!" "What are you doing??!!" "Are you kidding me??!!" "Get your head out of your -ss." Your hissy-fits send this message: It's not ok to make mistakes, especially dumb ones. And when you make a mistake, get ready for my disapproval. Parents sound like this: "Get your head in the game!" "You're better than that!" "Different day, same mistakes!" "I can't f-ing believe it!" What's going on??!!" Your hissy fits send this message: You disappoint me when you make mistakes. And when you make them, you are going to see, hear, and feel my disappointment.

I'm a 2x Olympiand and Mental Toughness Coach and when I work with athletes, the thing they try to avoid is making mistakes. I ask them why. "Because I don't want to get benched. I don't want to get yelled at. I don't want to feel embarrassed. I don't want to disappoint my parents. I don't want to get lectured on the car ride home." This list goes on and on. Hissy-fits are hindering your athletes/kids growth. Your hissy-fits are causing them to avoid taking risks, causing them to hide from trying new things. Your hissy-fits are hindering their creativity. Your hissy-fits result in them playing it safe and doing the same things they are already good at. Bottom line: Your hissy-fits are selfish because they only serve you.

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25 juin 2023

Hi Shawnee,

Every time I read or listen to your tutorials, I see myself and I learn something. You make it simple to understand what's going on with emotional storms no matter what type of storm it is. Lesson 2 was a struggle for me as so many truths to deal with that I didn't like about myself. Had to take off my blinders,. LOL The greatest part is that your tool kit is helping me deal with it all. Thank you, thank you , thank you!

JH

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